The first rule – avoid using “YOU” statements. It’s a strong statement that feels like you are accusing the other person.
If you can talk to your partner, it’s tempting to pour your heart out in one sitting – but it’s better not to do that.
If you want to be understood in your relationship, you also need to learn that understanding your partner is just fair.
If both of you raise your voice and start blaming each other for your shortcomings, do you think you will resolve anything?
If you’re upset and making a point, but your partner sees that your hands are clenched, this may cause aggression.
Do you want to know how to make someone understand your feelings? Start making conversations a habit.
Some people would rather be passive and resent their partner for not getting it. While others choose to be passive-aggressive, that ends up in a huge misunderstanding.
Learning how to explain your feelings to your partner is not that easy as well. Sometimes, your partner, upon hearing your sentiments, would automatically want to be better and change.
If your partner is driving, in a meeting, was laid off from work, and is tired. Don’t surprise them with your emotions and ask them to talk. Do it when you are free, relaxed, and calm.
We also need to be observant when we are dealing with issues like emotions.
If you feel neglected and are currently having an argument, this is not the right time to burst all your anger and resentment.
If you feel like you have a lot to say or if you are not good with words, then maybe, you can write a letter.