You're spending time with this amazing guy and you're thrilled he's interested in you. Sometimes you wish it was more than just friends (or even friends with benefits), but for now, you'll take his attention as it comes. The deep conversations you have with him are awesome, and you love how he opens up and tells you things.
Whether you met him before or after he got his girlfriend, he complains about how she treats him. Maybe she's mean or too demanding. Whatever the problem is, it drives him to seek you out, which often leads to spending the night together.
You feel so badly for him and can't imagine how could she be like that. But the trouble is, that's not the right question for you to be asking yourself. What you really need to know is why he needs to talk about his problems with you rather than fix them with her?
Then he gets busy and whoosh — he disappears like a puff of smoke. The weeks drag on and even if you text him, he might ignore you or text back that he's super busy right now, asking you to be patient with him.
Then out of nowhere he shows up like he was never away. No explanation and no apology, He just picks up where he left off. Things are great again like before, but you start wondering how long it will last and when he'll disappear again.
The first time you met might have been on a weekend, but since then he is never free on a Saturday night. It seems like he can only see you during the week, maybe even only on certain days.
If this is happening, know that he just wants to get you into bed and you are accepting these relationship crumbs because you don't value yourself enough.
He is really good about keeping in touch, and you love that about him. He's always texting during the day and into the night. Your conversations are fun, and sometimes they get pretty deep, too.
You love having a male friend and being part of his life. Yet, this new habit of his, texting you at 10:00 p.m. and wanting to see you, makes you wonder. While the sex is hot and you're happy to see him, why can't he manage to plan ahead?
Being this guy's friend is such a blast. You're having the best time with him, laughing at the same stuff and texting all sorts of things. The two of you have so much in common you can't believe it.