You know he's not the one if he doesn't inspire passion in you. You're a passionate person and you need a partner who is able to match your energy levels and your enthusiasm for life.
He's not the one if he stubbornly refuses to give you what you need. If you are feeling emotional and you need someone to vent to or you want someone who you know has your back so you feel confident enough to go for your dreams, you want a person who is whatever you need.
You know he's not the one if he's a horrible listener, has no conversation game, and is just plain boring. You become alive when you're in the middle of a fascinating conversation and you need a partner who is up to the challenge of exchanging ideas with you.
You know he's not the one if he makes you feel stupid for having and expressing your feelings. It's okay if he's someone who isn't that comfortable with emotions, but he shouldn't try to make you feel bad for having them and for wanting to talk about them.
You know he's not the one for you when he makes you do everything. You sometimes wonder if the two of you would ever do anything if you left it up to him. You have to do all the planning for everything including dates, meals, activities, and chores.
You know he's not the one if his thoughtlessness causes you anxiety. You're very sensitive and if he never thinks before he speaks or ignores all your preferences and rules, he needs to go. You like things to be in their place, and when he borrows them,
You know he's not the one if he makes you feel anxious around him. He seems to thrive on conflict and controversy. He may enjoy stirring the pot, but that's not something you enjoy. You can't stand conflict for conflict's sake and yet, it seems as if all he does is confront people and cause trouble just to get a reaction.
You know he's not the one if he's always toying with you. By now, you'd assume that you'd be past the point of playing games, but he seems to be getting off on keeping you off balance. How can you build a relationship on such a shaky foundation?
You know he's not the one if he gets intensely jealous over almost everything. You're very independent and you can't be with someone who resents you for your travels or who doesn't understand that when you chat with a stranger, you're not flirting, you're just genuinely interested in hearing what they have to say.
You know you're with the wrong when you feel as if you can't just be yourself around him and that your whole persona has to be carefully curated. You always try to look perfect, to be interested in the things he's interested in, and to be what you imagine he wants.
You know you're with the wrong person when he just doesn't get you at all. It's as if you're always speaking to him in a foreign language and he doesn't have a translator. If you don't have a partner who understands your brilliant and innovative mind, then you'll become dissatisfied with your relationship.
You know that he's not the one when he constantly takes advantage of your selflessness and generosity. If he's all about himself and never gives you a second thought, unless he needs something from you, you need to let him go.