If we dare to ask for what we truly want, we might actually get it. If you never ask, the answer is surely no.
When you start advocating for your needs, you start feeling better about yourself. You send an important message to yourself, “my needs matter, and so do I.”
When we show the softer side of us to our partner, and they accept us, our faith in them increases. They were there for us when we felt the most defenseless.
Opening up to a partner is a true testament to the strength of a relationship. How your partner will receive the real you is an important test of the relationship.
“If you always put a mask around others, you will always get what you don’t need.” If you want to feel truly accepted and recognized, you need to expose the inner parts of you to that possibility.
Although we want our partner to see the best in us, trying to be perfect all the time won’t have a good effect on the relationship.
After conducting thousands of interviews as a part of her research, Brene Brown said, “There can be no intimacy—emotional intimacy, spiritual intimacy, physical intimacy—without vulnerability.”
The more we know someone’s deepest thoughts, fears, and desires, the more we can understand their perspective and empathize with what they are going through.
When our partner supports and accepts us in our most vulnerable and fragile state over things we dislike about ourselves, we might start to accept ourselves more as a result.
Instead of engaging with one another, couples often turn to their cell phones, leading to a decline in physical intimacy and dissatisfaction in the relationship.