When I first saw a picture of my wife on Yahoo Personals, I thought she was way out of my league. Yet unlike many other women I reached out to, she responded to my email in a heartfelt authentic manner. We began a conversation via email that delved into issues of cultural identity, heartbreak, and future dreams.
By the time I met her in person, my heart was smitten. She turned out to be more beautiful and gracious in person than in the glamour shots she sent me. She was a goddess in my eyes and my heart.
Although the birth of our second son was not as dramatic, she still carried him for seven-and-a-half months while working full-time. If I don’t honor her as the mother of my sons, then I am taking for granted the miraculous presence of Jett and Fox in my life.
If I want my sons to have loving relationships with women, especially their mothers, I need to be a role model of how men treat women and mothers. Regardless of all the conflict, hurtful words, and trespasses, I feel my wife has launched at me, she's still a mother.
I still see my ex-wife every week when I drop off the children, but even if I moved to a different country, she would still be a part of my life. She's part of my history, my love life, my karma.
As an integral part of my life, my ex-wife constructs my present reality. If I don’t embrace everything in my life, then I am not living what Brené Brown calls a whole-hearted life.
As a woman, my ex-wife gives me privileged access to the divine feminine. Regardless of what our marital status states, she's still a part of my wholeness.
She's a creator. She's a nurturing caregiver. She has strengths and powers that I will never completely comprehend or understand.
When I judge others, I lose peace of mind. When I honor others, even in their humanness, I feel much better about life, relationships, and the present moment.
I’ve wasted far too much time gnashing my teeth and wringing my hands while ruminating all the ways my ex-wife has treated me unjustly. I’ve found peace of mind to be the most important factor in my happiness, health, relationships, and spiritual practice.