Do you find that you date the wrong people over and over? One of my clients, Laura, certainly does. She recently asked me: "I grew up in an abusive and dysfunctional family; how can I stop my pattern of choosing destructive and abusive relationships? Is it better to just remain single and grow with God and be a good mom and not gravitate toward craziness?"
Those who have emotionally abusive relationships with their parents tend to pick partners similar to their parents and then try to win their love.
The wounded part of you may believe that if you can get this abusive, unloving person to love you, then you will also be winning the love from your parents that you never received.
Given that you come from an abusive family, it's likely that you have learned to treat yourself the way your parents treated you and the way they treated themselves.
Until you learn to love yourself rather than abandon yourself, you will continue to attract emotionally abusive relationships.
Most of us want to share love and we are lonely when we don't have anyone to share it with. In addition
The challenge is finding a partner who is open to learning about themselves and about you so that the two of you can journey together through your healing process.
When you grow up with no role models of loving yourself, you date the wrong people and might need some help in learning how to do this.
Reaching out for help in learning how to connect with your personal source of spiritual guidance and what it looks like to love yourself is an important part of taking loving care of yourself.