If you’ve got it bad — I mean, the really bad I can’t get out of bed, I just want to exist on pizza and beer from the comfort of my sheets for the next 3 years sort of bad — you’ve got to set the tone for the day the second you open your eyes.
Breakups not only take up all of our headspaces, but they also eat up our energy, too. You’ve just been handed a bunch of free time back, so use it productively. Have you been meaning to organize your garage? Paint your kitchen?
Social media can be fabulous when you’re looking for love, and devastating when you’re getting over it. Stop frequenting their social media accounts and block them! You don’t need to torture yourself by watching their every move. And besides, doing so keeps you stuck in the past.
Let’s face it: our partners tend to like us the way we were when we met them and often want us to stay the same. Use this time to reinvent who you are and rediscover who you wanted to be before this relationship came along.
Don’t wallow in old shared music for long. Clean out your music cache and rediscover some new favorites that inspire you. Music, like scent, holds memories and can spark emotion immediately. Be careful with what you want to conjure with your music selection.
Each time we experience something new, our brain creates new neuropathways that allow us to write new stories. This is why we feel so relaxed on vacation: we’re creating new neuropathways and rewriting old patterns with fresh data.
Think back on the person you were prior to your recent relationship. Were there interests and hobbies that got lost along the way? When two people come together in a relationship, the bond between them forms a third entity of shared interests and activities.
A ritual or ceremony to honor your future ahead symbolizes your new path and facilitates a sense of reverence for where you’ve been. Whether it’s in your men’s group or with a group of close girlfriends, figure out a way to symbolize your ending and your new beginning.