Whether interacting with their biggest client or a server taking their drink order, irresistible people are unfailingly polite and respectful.
The Golden Rule — treat others as you want to be treated — is a fatal flaw: it assumes that all people want to be treated the same way. It ignores that people are motivated by vastly different things. One person loves public recognition, while another loathes being the center of attention.
There’s no surer way to prevent an emotional connection from forming during a conversation than by sticking to small talk. When you robotically approach people with small talk, this puts their brains on autopilot and prevents them from having any real affinity for you.
Irresistible people possess an authentic interest in those around them. As a result, they don’t spend much time thinking about themselves. They don’t obsess over how well they’re liked, because they’re too busy focusing on the people they’re with.
Irresistible people don’t dominate the conversation with stories about how smart and successful they are. It’s not that they’re resisting the urge to brag. The thought doesn’t even occur to them because they know how unlikeable people are who try too hard to get others to like them.
Irresistible people handle controversial topics and touchy subjects with grace and poise because they are emotionally intelligent. They don’t shrink from sharing their opinions, but they make it clear that they’re opinions, not facts.
Irresistible people are who they are. Nobody has to burn up energy or brainpower trying to guess their agenda or predict what they’ll do next. They do this because they know that no one likes a fake.
People with high integrity are irresistible because they walk their talk, plain and simple. Integrity is a simple concept but a difficult thing to practice. To demonstrate integrity every day,
If you want people to find you irresistible, smile at them during conversations and they will unconsciously return the favor and feel good as a result.
There’s a massive difference between being presentable and being vain. Irresistible people understand that making an effort to look your best is comparable to cleaning your house before company comes — it’s a sign of respect for others.
Irresistible people are positive and passionate. They’re never bored because they see life as an amazing adventure and approach it with a joy that other people want to be a part of.